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How I Spent My Holiday…

See what happens when you have a major meltdown and take some time away from your blog – the bastards go and change it all! I’ve spent twenty minutes just finding the New Post button. If this post ever goes live, it’ll be a bleeding miracle…

Okay, so it’s safe to say the past year hasn’t been one of my finest. In fact it’s been pants. I’ve veered away from Funny Internet Dating and blundered into Whiney Doctors-Really-Get-On-My-Tits territory, but hey! I’m still here. I’m still breathing. I still have a stupid sense of humour. Life is just great.

In the last six months I’ve experienced just about every emotion known to man – well, to woman, because we all know that blokes don’t have emotions. Except maybe joy when Arsenal score a goal. Or envy when they spot someone with a bigger willy. But my mind’s wandering again…

I guess it’s normal to go through an angry stage when you’ve just been landed with a life-altering illness. I think I’ve come out the other side, but who knows. Maybe morphing into a pre-menstrual monster is something I’ll do regularly from now on. Mind you, if you spoke to The Ex, he’d say I’ve always been one…


But enough of my madness, I really wanted to share all the things I’ve learned or discovered in the last six months, things that may help you if you’re ever find yourself laid up on the sofa with a horrible illness:

  • Wearing pyjamas, a dressing gown and slippers outside of the house,  at any point during the day, will elicit strange looks and laughter. Really, what’s the problem here, people? I’m talking fleecy jammies, a towelling robe and – well, you’ve seen the slippers. It’s not as if I’m parading through town in a Babydoll nightie or crotchless knickers and a peephole bra. And I usually slip a jumper over the top if I’m going shopping…

  • Four days and three nights is the absolute maximum you can spend in the same set of clothes before you start gagging on your own stench. Three days is pushing it to be honest but, you can just about stretch to a fourth if you keep squirting yourself with air freshener. Although this masks your odour,  unfortunately  it does absolutely nothing to keep the flies away.

  • When a crop of cold sores break out on the end of your nose, you really do look like Rudolph. Yeah, I know he looks kinda cute, but believe me,  it’s not such a great look on a middle-aged woman in a clashing fuschia-pink dressing  gown.  I think it’s something to do with the way ME affects your immune system, but I seem to always have cold sores – on my nose, up my nose and around my eyes. And people are so rude; they stare and make grimacing faces as they step away from you in case it’s contagious. I’ve found the only way to deal with this situation is to step closer, as if you’re about to confide a delicious gossipy rumour, and say,Yes, such a shame. I’m absolutely riddled with herpes.’
  • The body is a wonderfully skilled feat of genetic engineering. Until it goes wrong and then it’s about as effective as a man trying to find your G-Spot. Even I can’t believe how you cannot have the strength in your arm to lift a cup a tea or chop a poxy vegetable for dinner, or how, at the end of the day, you really do not have the energy to get undressed, and just collapse into bed, shaking with the effort of getting your fat arse upstairs. It is truly incredible, but it’s true! As evidence I should have kept a vlog of me looking like Rudolph in a tea-stained, fushcia-pink dressing gown and Eeyore slippers, crawling up the stairs to have a pee. Amazing.

  • Underneath all that chemical dye, my hair is, in fact, white. I haven’t been able to dye my hair since Christmas last year because I just can’t keep my arms up long enough to do it. So I’m now sporting about eight inches of grey roots – Wrong! Underneath all that Auburn Sunset hair dye, my hair is pretty much all pure white. I don’t know whether it’s been this pale for a while or whether I’ve literally gone white overnight from the shock of not being able to reach my tea cup, but one thing’s for sure, if I ever manage to dye it again, the colourant is gonna react reallywell on white hair: Auburn Sunset is going to be more like flaming flourescent orange. It’s gonna cause a major clash with my dressing gown…


  • Chronic Fatigue or ME is ‘all in yer ‘ead, love!’ I don’t know if this is the same overseas, but in the UK, ME is very much an imaginary condition. In true British-Stiff-Upper-Lip fashion, we are often told, ‘Pull yourself together, chaps! A jolly good dose of psychotherapy and graded exercise routines will have soon have you back in the trenches!’ Despite the fact that 250,000 people in the UK suffer with this illness – a quarter of whom are pretty much bed-bound for decades of their life – our government spends less money each year researching the causes and possible treatments, than it spends on researching hay-fever. True, dat. And in the meantime we have no effective treatments or even the sniff of a cure. I won’t go on (too much) but it’s pretty much the only illness that evokes no sympathy or understanding from our society – and that includes the medical profession.

  •  Twitter is God. Yeah, yeah, I know I’ve slagged it off in the past, but it’s been a real link to the outside world while I’ve been ill. I haven’t been able to spend more than about 20 minutes on the computer at a time, so I couldn’t keep up with my blog or your fabulous blogs and I was missing the company. Because the messages are so short I’ve been able to keep in touch with you wonderful peeps on Twitter. You  do find out who your friends are when you hit a crisis, and you lot have been stupendous (posh British word for awesome)     😀

About Tiny Temper

I'm a middle-aged freelance writer living in Cornwall. And no, it's not all sun, sand and steaming pasties. I've been married, done the divorce and accidentally shrunk the tee-shirt.

18 responses »

  1. Ha ha ha I love you!!
    And I missed you!!!!

  2. Yaaaaay! It’s so good to see you back!! And you haven’t lost your sense of humor!! I hope you stay on the up and up! I so missed your posts!

    But really, go wash the dressing gowns and robe!

    I have to dye my hair as well. I’m going the light brown route now as so NOT to have the flaming red dome on top where all the white is. If it comes out nice, I’ll post a picture on FB.

    Welcome back to the living!

    • Yaaay! It’s good to be back 🙂 I did kinda lose my humour for a while there, but it re-surfaced eventually 😉

      Have you been sneaking in my bedroom while I was sleeping and inspected my dressing gown?? I’ve got gravy stains down the front of it at the moment 😀 Why am I admitting that in public? It’s disgusting!

      I had my hair cut today – first time in months – and quite a bit shorter. My God, you should see it now – all the colour’s gone, it’s just ghostly pale :-O And no, I’m not posting a photo on FB! 🙂

  3. OMG! I’ve missed you! So glad to see you back! Nice list of lessons learned …… I’ll keep them in mind!

    • How’s the dating going, internet dating buddy? Give me a quick update ‘cos I’ll never be able to backtrack through 4 months of posts… Eeeek! 🙂

      • No need to compliment me on my stellar response time 😉 Okay, dating rundown the past 4 months. Douchebag, Douchebag, Tool, AA Guy, Douchebag, Awesome Date, Douchebag ~ befriend the ‘awesome date’ guy when he decides he’s not over his ex in a ridiculous attempt to convince myself that ‘just friends’ was a great idea. It wasn’t. I fell for him. He fell for someone else. I told him I could be friends with him anymore as I was jealous. He dumped the other whore and now he’s mine. Until I screw it up and go back to internet dating. Yup, that about covers it 🙂

      • No need to compliment me on my rapid response times, either… Life is just too much for me; I should have been one of those Victorian women who sat around all day, stitching cross-stitched whatever it was they stitched.
        OMG! Love life alert – wow, you found a keeper? Seriously? Does he ahve a brother? Preferably an English brother. With the buttocks of Jason Statham.
        I must catch up with you and everyone else :-/

  4. Missed you… Hope you are on the mend

  5. Yeah, Chronic Fatigue is a roll-your-eyes and shake your head kind of thing here, too. So is fibromyalgia (sp?). Absolutely no understanding. No way to prove it, so it doesn’t really exist – except in your head. Ugh! I really hope that, along this lovely trip through medical hell that you’re taking, you wind up with *someone* who both understands your diagnosis AND can help you.

    Oh, and why not have one of your boys help you dye your hair fuchsia? I’ll bet it takes to the white swimmingly and it’ll match your robe! Hell, if people are busy staring just because you happen to wear your Eeyore slippers out of the house, you may as well give them a really good reason to stare, right?

    • Thank-you, oh, lovely one! It’s a bit of a bummer, but our day will come when medical science finally reveals that CFS/ME had a physiological origin all along. We will be victorious in our exhaustion 🙂

      Oh, fuchsia hair! I want it! Now! That’s such a fab idea, and I’ve now got matching furry pjs!! The bottoms are furry zebra-striped – how cool?!
      Seriously, though, thanks for being there *hugs*

  6. I’m so glad ryoko mentioned your blog to me; this had me in stitches. It’s glorious to see how you use language, there’s not enough Britishness sometimes in blog world. I’m looking forward to reading more, and thank you so much for your comment on my blog; it’s really helped, and I’m touched that you would take the time to offer support.

    • Aww, thanks! I just think it’s important that we stick together, especially with these invisible illnesses. And let’s face it, the British NHS is pants when it comes to stuff like this 🙂 Yes, thay can deal with sore throats and broken legs, but when it comes to something a bit different, they haven’t got a clue.

      I’ve been lagging badly with the blog as I was going through a rough patch, but I’m hoping to pick it up again this week 🙂 Any time you want a chat, e-mail me – you should have my address on your blog. Keep smiling, and don’t let the bastards get you down 🙂 *hugs*


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